MarketingNewAuthors is pleased to announce the publication of Are There Black Angels In Heaven?: Sharing A For-Real Black Love Story, by MANA's owner, Fairy Hayes-Scott, Ph.D.
Dr Fairy says this book is for all men and women who want to develop and maintain a loving relationship.
MANA: What inspired you to write Are There Black Angels In Heaven? Sharing A For Real Black Love Story?
Fairy Hayes-Scott (FHS): Now, let me give some background info. I grew up attending Catholic schools; thus, I was made very aware that there was a guardian angel for every individual. Thus, whenever something happened in my life, significant or not, I would talk to my guardian angel about it. Since I was an only child, my guardian angel became a very close friend whom I could talk to, and it was through my conversations with him that I also talked to God.
When I was twelve, I received a gift, a diary. And from then up until now, I have written in a diary. I have volumes of diaries. As I became older, I knew that I wanted to do something with these entries. Then, about ten or fifteen years ago, I decided that I wanted to develop a book from these entries in which I would reflect on different entries.
Now, that brings us up to today—this book, Are There Black Angels in Heaven?: Sharing A For-Real Black Love Story. I had the title in mind, but I was not quite sure how I would develop the book. Then, during the first of this year, my husband passed, bingo! He must have inspired me to take this path of development.
I recalled that for years I had read articles discussing the gloom and doom for professional women, especially professional Black women, on their prospects of being involved in a meaningful relationship. I remembered, when I was a young professional hoping to meet a good man to be part of my life, the articles were spewing less than positive love results. And my experiences were not always positive. Even more irritating to me was that some people giving advice did not have a good track record in their own romance department. Then, I met my husband, a Black man. And that is why I have the subtitle.
The relationship I developed and maintained with him for over 44 years was, indeed, a for-real love story. And so, voilà the inspiration for the full title—Are There Black Angels in Heaven?: Sharing A For-Real Black Love Story.
MANA: Please give a brief summary of your book.
FHS: My book focuses on my diary entries from the end of 1978 to 2024. I do not take every entry; I focus on those entries I feel would be most interesting and relevant to more than just me. And with each entry, I make my reflections. They are the “I wish I knew then what I know now” reflections. My reflections are advice to the unmarried young, the newly married, and seasoned married.
MANA: Who are the black angels that you refer to in the title of your book?
FHS: There is only one Black angel for me. However, I do believe that the Good Lord has designated an angel for every person. How one chooses to acknowledge and communicate with that angel is that person’s choice. For me, I have no doubt that this very special spirit has guided me throughout my life. Sometimes, I have followed his guidance, sometimes not.
MANA: How did you decide which diary entries to include in your book?
FHS: If an entry were boring, I skipped it. If I thought many folks would not find the entry and my reflection/advice valuable or worth considering, I skipped it. If I found the entry interesting to me and my desire to make a reflection very important, most definitely, I placed both in the book.
MANA: How did you decide which aspects of your life to include in the book?
FHS: I wanted this book to be the kind I would have wanted when I was in my late twenties. I wanted this book to be for the busy, young professional man or woman who really wants to make his/her marriage work. I wanted to make this book to be for the established couple who wants to keep their marriage strong and loving in the latter years. Thus, I shared aspects of my life that are relevant for the young dating professional, newly-married, established-married, and seasoned married individuals.
MANA: Did you learn anything about yourself as you were writing your diary entries and writing content for 2025?
FHS: Yes. One is that I can be insecure. Thus, I may think the worst. Also, I have difficulty boasting about myself to others. Thus, I have to ask my Higher Power and my guardian angel to help me navigate through these weak character traits. However, as I re-read my entries, I learned I have a very strong capacity to love. And when I refer to love, that can be in a romantic and plutonic sense. And it takes a lot for me to give up on a person, but once I am through with the person, I have no desire to put myself in the position to be hurt by that person ever again. I do forgive, but I do not forget.
MANA: How did you balance the need for honesty and vulnerability while also respecting the privacy of yourself and your family members?
FHS: I am in the senior phase of my life. Thus, I do not worry that much about being vulnerable. If someone reads something and thinks “she is or was a fool,” I am OK with that. I accept that it is the reader’s opinion, and I respect the fact that s/he took the time to read my work. I believe so strongly that I must be honest with my readers and myself. I am a sensitive person, and sensitive to the feelings of others.
MANA: What was the easiest part of the writing process for you?
FHS: The easiest part of the writing process is sharing the good experiences that I shared with my husband.
MANA: What was the most challenging part of writing the book?
FHS: The most challenging part of the writing process is sharing my insecure moments in my relationship with my husband, especially my fear that he would not ever propose to me.
MANA: What advice would you offer to others who may want to write about their own experiences?
FHS: My advice would be that anyone who wants to write his/her personal experiences is that the purpose for the writing is very clear to the writer.
MANA: What do you hope that readers will take away from your book?
FHS: I do hope readers see that any for-real love takes time, requires total commitment to one another, and never let any outside people, a job, or any circumstances thwart that commitment to one another.
MANA: Is there anything else that you would like to say about your book? '
FHS: As I read and re-read my book several times, I realized just how blessed I was to be loved and supported by various people in my life. Also, I realized just how blessed I was that my Higher Power placed such a wonderful man in my life. And I realized how blessed that I had the love and blessing of my Higher Power and the support of my guardian angel from Heaven. Also, I realized the special people on this earth I was blessed to have in my life—my children, my biological family, and non-biological family, and dear friends—and, most importantly, my husband until my Higher Power called him to his Heavenly home. Yet, even there, my husband has continued to guide and inspire me.
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